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Having spent over three years of my life hopelessly in love with someone who I was absolutely certain was my destined partner, I have come to realize some very important things about marginal versus true love. I was an executive living in a sophisticated city. After many years of being single, I decided to focus on finding my perfect man. I wrote a fantasy list about what he might be like. A few months later, we met. We had known each other in high school and were serendipitously reunited decades later by a technical fluke on LinkedIn.
We had a harmless drink together while I was on a business trip. Drinks became dinner, with much laughter and reminiscing. It was love at first sight. He never discussed his wife in the beginning. He had been married for almost 20 years. I never expected to become his mistress I ignored all the statistics and articles about affairs, rationalized my religious upbringing, and compromised every moral fiber in my body. It felt like everything I had held out for my entire life led to that one moment: when my dream guy told me of his definite plan to begin our new life together.
In the end, it was all about selfishness, obsession, and greed on his part. There is no emotion on earth more powerful than falling deeply in love after waiting your whole life for "the one," your perfect match. However, the bottom line is that thee vast majority of the time, married men will not leave their wives , and they definitely won't leave their children or fortunes. And even when they do leave, statistics of success for their are unfavorable.
He may even admit it, and you will think it's just temporary as he is "in transition," but this disrespectful behavior will continue. You may be his perfect "baby doll" and new best friend, but she's the mother of his children. That bond and history are like cement, especially if she's loyal and still loves him.
She controls the mood in the home and the happiness of his kids. He will not risk disruption of his children's development; they are his proudest achievement. He will squeeze you in around agendas at work and precious moments with his family to make you feel important. He will give you just enough charming calls, sexy texts, expensive dinners out, token gifts, cards and I love you's to keep you in tow for months, making you forget you are only on the sidelines of his life, not in the core. He may even be bold enough to keep a corporate condo with you in an urban location so that he can have the best of both worlds.
You might relocate your career for him thinking he's truly committed to you. You will forget as you play "house" that you are just the mistress, not the Mrs. You have no rights to anything. You may receive untraceable or consumable gifts in lieu of real time together. Family vacations or excursions with his wife if he even tells you about them will be torturous as you are reminded you are nothing more than a secret. You try harder to make him see what he has been missing when you welcome him back home. He will reinforce how much he's in love with you from the distance and time apart, and that he will tell his wife soon, so you stay.
You will eventually avoid interacting with certain friends and family as time in the affair bubble goes on, and it becomes harder and harder to lie to them about your dating situation. Why is a great girl like you still single? Have you met anyone? Are you being too picky? You begin to question how "great" you really are for getting into such a shameful situation. But you have his keys, credit card s, passwords, and secrets. You have come this far; surely he cannot live in duality for much longer. Life is about taking risks, especially for true love, right?
If you think this is the first time he has stepped out of his marriage, think again. Embezzlers steal small amounts of money before they move up to stealing millions. Men cheat in different ways before they become comfortable with full-fledged affairs. You might actually believe your situation is different and that you are special. You will waste valuable time waiting for a commitment that will never materialize. Instead, you could be giving your heart to someone who includes you in his whole life, not just on the shady sidelines.
If you attempt to end the affair, he will let you go every time because he doesn't want to be "your gravity" in holding you back. He will manipulate you with his tears, love letters, roses, and heart-wrenching voice messages. There will be more empty promises that he will finally talk to his wife, but know this: he will never leave her, his kids, or his money.
If you try to give him space to work on his marriage he may become concerned about your long-term loyalty. You return to him, hoping to prove you will be there when he leaves her. This situation is making you absolutely miserable when you are apart. You beg him to tell his wife — she deserves to know! Your mood will become more volatile as you think of her at home waiting for him, innocent and unsuspecting. You want him to make the right choice without pressure.
This is just not right and you know it, yet you protect him anyway. Questioning him only upsets him, so you hide the pain and try not to complain. Over time, your guilty subconscious mind may develop several anxiety-related conditions as you struggle with the duplicity of the affair. Somewhere along the line, that confident, intelligent woman disappeared. You won't recognize who you have become. You'll feel trapped. You are truly in love with him and cannot be with anyone else, but he's not being loyal to you. He might suggest that you date other men with a warning not to bring anything back if your devotion becomes too much for him when his wife needs him at home.
A part of you will die every time you compromise and return to him when he says he can't live without you. Yet, in the end, he definitely can. You will feel used and cheap when he finally tells you things "really aren't that bad" and that he "cannot reconcile" you with his obligations at home. You now know that he values his safe, predictable, wealthy lifestyle far more than living an open, honest new life with you. Mistresses are like diamonds: sparkly, beautiful, and only worn for certain occasions. Wives are like water: needed every day to sustain the well-being of his family, relatives, financial and social status.
You finally pack up and walk out the door for good, realizing this situation is like an infinity circle making you unfocused in all areas of your life. You are on the road to healing but be warned: Once a married man cheats, he's very likely to do it again. He may complain to you he's sexually frustrated and lonely as you stand your ground and send him back to his wife.
He may even claim he made a mistake by letting you go. You want him to make an honest woman out of you, so you remain resolute. You cry hard because you miss him so much. You have just one small ounce of hope left for a future together, but the void of frequent sex and attention will not work for him. Be prepared to find out one day he has slyly moved on to someone even more of a fool than you were. He may hint he "plans on staying young for a long time" and that he feels sorry for you. If he's willing to abuse his position of power at work, his new trustworthy target will likely be an ambitious, amorous, and naive young girl who he can mentor, promote, and travel with undetected on the company tab.
His guilt, if any, will be short-lived for wasting your time should you happen to find him out. After all, "you were a part of it and you knew what you were getting into. After enough time spend being a mistress, suddenly, you will realize with full force and momentous magnitude that you have wasted years of your life for literallyI don t want to be a mistress
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